High Church, small wedding, no thanks

I was thurifer last Saturday afternoon (Oct. 1) at a solemn mass blessing the marriage, which had happened about a year ago, of two new members of our parish. I spent several hours before the service making sure the church was properly cleaned (I usually do that anyway, but trying to get it done by 3pm was not easy) since I heard they were expecting over 100 people there. So it was rather surprising when we processed in that there were only a handful of people in attendance on each side of the aisle. I believe we counted 11 people in the congo, plus 8 in the choir and 7 in the sanctuary. It was a lovely service nonetheless, with the Palestrina Missa Papae Marcelli mass setting and enough music, all of it glorious, for a crowd of 300 at communion. The video camera was set up in the Lady Chapel so I tripped on the tripod on my way in after the censings, but there was so much smoke that it probably wasn't noticeable. The bride had insisted on no flowers, which was very odd. She said she didn't believe in distracting from the altar, which is a nice attitude, but weddings should have flowers, imho. Afterward the bridal party took pictures for close to an hour but never invited the clergy or altar servers to be in any of them. The MC had spent a few hours setting up, putting away and directing the flow of the service and the other four of us that were not clergy (who did get paid) had given up several hours of a beautiful Saturday to bring the service off for these people we scarcely knew, and not a nod, not a word of thanks from the bride or groom or any of the others in the party. Not that we expected money or anything, although it is traditional to give at least a small offering or gift to those in the altar party, but at least a word of thanks would have been a nice touch. I'll tell you, there are alot of people out there with no manners these days. I hope they have a happy marriage anyway. Next Saturday it will be a High Church funeral, and at least we can look forward to a nice reception afterward.